Growing up and heartaches

Part of my vocation and calling is helping women in marital crisis. In such situation, objectivity is an important criteria while not abandoning empathy. But when someone close to you is experiencing the same thing that's happened to the women that you've assisted, it is very difficult to be objective. My first instinct is to tell her, cut your losses and be damned with him. But of course, you have to pull back and be the rational voice for the hurting woman. I'm praying that this is all a big, colossal misunderstanding or that the wally comes to his senses and beg for mercy and forgiveness from her for the next 80 years of their lives. In the mean time, my ears are always open for you, SH.